Rainbows are rare. They only come during a Sun Shower.
Over the last few days my personal FB feed had been filled with a lot of things; pride, support, love, bigotry, hatred, Narcissism, hubris, confusion,frustration, anger and general What-The-Fuckness.
Ya know, if I could impart just one small bit of advice to you at this particular point in time (and in hopes that helps you past this particular point in time) it would be this; When people show you who they really are…believe them.
As much as it hurts.
As much as you don’t want to.
As much as it pisses you off.
Then make a decision whether to stay or go. Not to stay and argue unto the until of time but to stay with some form of acceptance because you find that someone has good qualities beyond one difference of opinion.
OR…if they’re driving you crazy on Facebook you can choose the ‘unfollow’ button like I did. Yep, you’re still ‘friends’ but until you choose to ‘follow’ them again you can’t see whatever it is they’re posting. The person you ‘unfollow’ won’t know. No matter which side of any given fence you’re on it’s an awesome tool. I love it! Use it. Save your sanity. Lower your blood pressure. :)
There are two type of Americans in this country; those who believe that we are all equal under the law and those who feel they have an inherent right to subjugate segments of the population. They say it’s because “God Says So” but, in my very humble opinion, it’s merely because doing so makes them feel better about themselves in some manner.
I pity them, in the deepest recesses of my heart, I honestly pity them. I don’t want to. But I do.
That’s why I didn’t ‘unfriend’ any of them.
The First Amendment gives every American the right to get up on their Soap Box and shout whatever they want from the top of their lungs. I support that. It also gives every American the right to tell said Soap Boxer they are full of shit, or to join them, or walk away from them. I opt to walk away not just to keep my sanity but because I learned long ago there was no sense in shouting to deaf ears.
First off, I’d really like to say that Marriage did NOT BEGIN with CHRISTIANITY. Nope. Sorry, it didn’t. And, of course, the “definition” of “marriage” has changed a great deal in the US (and other parts of the world) over the course of History. A woman is no longer considered her husband’s “property”, it is no longer perfectly OK for a husband to beat and/or rape his wife, I can’t buy your daughter for a goat anymore and so on and so on.
As I understand it from 12 years of History/Social Studies/World Cultures/US & Citizenship Classes, I had to pass throughout my academic career (and did so with aces, btw)… Every Law Abiding Tax Paying Citizen of This Country is ENTITLED to Equal Protection Under The Law. That’s one of our founding principles. We have Equal Rights. Equal Opportunities. Equal Responsibility. No matter who we are or what we believe in. I, as a Citizen of the United States of America, am morally bound NOT to deny these rights and privileges to ANY of my Fellow Citizens as We Are All Created Equal.
It can be a tough pill to swallow. It can.
While those of certain “religions” do not like the decision handed down by the Supreme Court, I sympathize, but I remind them of the Separation of Church and State.
The Church doesn’t get to the make the rules that govern the whole body of the country.
The Government doesn’t get to tell the Church what to do.
The Government will never sanction any “religion” over another.
The Government, in terms that some out there will understand better than others, has agreed to Render Unto Cesar Those Things That Are Cesar’s (mans) and to Render Unto God Those Things That Are God’s.
God, whatever one you believe in, will judge you by how you treated your fellow man, His fellow creations. Whether you liked them or not, agreed with them or not, how did you treat them? With respect or disdain?
It’s up to you to decide. Free Will and all.
You know, as I recall, one of the greatest sins of ALL was to Presume to Know the Mind of God.
I could be wrong on that.
I’ve been thinking about making this post all day and wondering if I should because I may ‘offend’ some fine folks out there.
(That’s your warning.)
Today the Supreme Court said same-sex marriage is legal across the country. I’m stunned. Amazed. And very happy. But we’re not going to talk about that here. Sorry.
As I sat in the Surgical Center–did you know almost no one goes to the hospital for surgery any more? Weird!–that news blared on CNN and my FB feed was filled with images of the Confederate Flag and posts about someone wanting to ban “Gone With The Wind”. I’m not in favor of banning anything short of eating babies and killing old people. If you want to say it. Say it. If you want to display it. Display it. On your time and your own dime and your own property. And at your own risk. Go for it. I thought about “Gone With The Wind” and realized to tell about this but it’s very long and winding. If you’re gonna stick around get a beer or something.
I live in Connecticut. I was born in Connecticut. I’ll die in New England, definitely, but Connecticut most likely. I’m a Northerner. A Yankee. Growing up, to me the Rebel Flag was some part of the paint job on the General Lee. I didn’t watch “Dukes” often, it wasn’t one of my favorite shows, but whenever I did, I watched for the car not ‘Bo’ and ‘Luke’. And ‘Archie Bunker’ was at the top of the TV Charts. I still love ‘Archie’. ‘Archie’, like everyone else on Planet Earth, was a simple Victim of His Times and the Times around him that were changing so fast he couldn’t keep up very readily.
I’ve been to The South. Twice. Yes, out of 48 years I’ve spent 1 month in The South. Two family vacations wherein we drove from our door down to (of all places at this exact point in time) Charleston, South Carolina. That’s; Connecticut to New York, to New Jersey, to Pennsylvania, to Delaware, to West Virginia, to Virginia, to North Carolina, to South Carolina….turn around do it again reverse order. :)
Yeah, ok, I’m aware that there’s more to The South than that. I am. Don’t jump on me over it.
As a Damned Yankee, there are many things about The South that I liked and could readily appreciate. It’s beautiful, for one, it really is. Parts of it…well…there’s a reason I ended the OF WAR Series with my Utopia of the Blue Mountain in, oh yeah, The Blue Ridge Mountains. Yeah, ok, Stephen King had already taken The Rockies which are equally breathtaking. LOL It is very unique and historical–two things my father loved. Other parts of The South, eh, not so good. They made me happy to come home again. Like the parts where people walk around with guns strapped to their waists. I was shocked! Amazed! Fucking dumbfounded! And, at the ages of 10 and later 12, scared to freakin’ death. We didn’t spend too much time in those states but while we were there my father’s rule was never to make eye contact with anyone openly wearing a gun, do not stare at the gun and, if at all possible, simply turn around and walk in the other direction. No problem.
I told you that little story so I can tell you this longer one.
Skip ahead 12 years.
I’m married with two kids living in an apartment on Pequot Ave with my hubby when two Navy Girls move in downstairs. Kathi and Dani. Nice girls. Young. Just starting out like we were. Dani was from some state the southern/midwest, I wish I could remember which one. Kathi was from Tennessee. Her accent, to this day, is unforgettable. She was a very tall skinny drink of water too and she was funny. One night we’re sitting in the yard and she points down and says; “Do you know what they call that plant?”
I said: “It’s a Yucca” I’m from the North so that’s Yew-cca.
She said: “A YEW-Kah? Back home we call it a Yuck-ah bush, know why? ‘Cause when you look at it makes ya go ‘yucka’.”
Another night we were all sitting out in the yard, I had a little garden back there, Roy put a tire swing for the girls, there was a picnic table. It was a nice night but we were all pretty bored. Kathi started talking about her lack of understanding of this strange behavior of us Yankees; “None of you has a gun!”
“Ahhh, nope, not really.” I said.
“Why is that? Ain’t ya afraid somebody’s gonna shewt ch’a?”
“Ahhh, nope, not really, cuz, like no one has a gun so…..”
There are people, proud people, in the Great State of Connecticut who own guns, of course there are. Many have a license to carry a concealed weapon. But, so far, the non-gun owners are still the greater population. Just so you know, most of us tend to carry a small folding knife or some sort or another, others like some sort of spray. We’re not totally defenseless we just don’t walk around with a gun on our hip or wherever you carry yours.
So the idea that no one around her was openly strapped was as foreign to Kathi as the idea of nearly everyone around being openly strapped was to me.
It’s a Cultural Thing. Don’t ask me to explain it. Please. Don’t.
The subject went by for a few moments as we sat around shooting the shit, drinking beers, when Kathi spoke again; “Ya know, when we was bored back home at least we always had somethin’ to shewt at.”
I think I fell off the picnic table. I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry, scream, or run. She just stared at me with those big blue eyes.
“What?” She asked. “We did, there’s always somethin’ to shewt at.”
I ended up laughing my ass off.
To this very day those Immortal Words echo throughout my marriage. Whenever we are really bored we always end up turning to each and, in unison, uttering; “Back home we always had somethin’ to shewt at.”
(Is that ‘offensive’? I dunno. Deal with it either way, ok?)
Now I’ll tell you my “Gone With The Wind” story.
This was Kathi’s favorite movie of all time! She talked about it endlessly, ‘Scarlett O’Hara’ was her idol and when she discovered we’d never seen it she insisted that we just had to watch it. So we did. She rented the movie…on VHS! LOL I went to the store got beer, chips, Dr. Pepper, and a bag of Pork Rinds. Disgusting things, BTW. Kathi was very pleased to see that I had thought of my non-alcohol-imbibing Southern Friend and wondered how I knew to get her Dr. Pepper. I told her my trips down South where Dr. Pepper was more prevalent than Coke and I thought she might like to have it.
So, somewhere around 5-7 of us settled in to watch this piece of Classic Hollywood. Kindly keep in mind that up until this point my biggest dealing with this movie were a Carol Burnett skit and clips from the film I’d seen here and there on other shows.
We watched the whole thing. Beginning to end even though it swiftly became obvious that the film made the Yankees in the room a tad bit uncomfortable. I reminded myself that this as an old movie and things were different back then. In the end, it didn’t help much. There were a few parts where us white Yankees glanced at each other although pleading for mercy.
At the end, Kathi turned to us and said: “Well, what’d ya’ll think?”
We just kind of nodded and mumbled that it was a good movie and we enjoyed it but it was fairly obvious that all of our heads were swimming…well, at least to each other. We were relieved when Kathi and Dani had to go get ready for Duty and soon took their leave. We sat around smoking drinking beer looking at each other saying: “What the fuck was THAT?”
“I’da killed the bitch.”
Although I wholeheartedly agreed I did try to state that it was an older movie about an even older time and things were just different then.
They weren’t really having it and we all ended up agreeing that we didn’t really like “Gone With The Wind” very much and we needed our version of eye-bleach, which happened to be “Speed” (of all things) but it was brand New Release way back then.
Even though I didn’t like it, I’d never consider banning it. No one was killed, tortured, or mutilated during or for the making of the film so…it should be available to the Public. It’s a piece of History both Hollywood and American. We shouldn’t turn away from that or try to change it not in a film or in a book. Nor do we have to embrace it. But we do have to look at it and do our best to understand it.
It’s a movie. And it’s not necessarily “racist”. It’s accurate for its time and presentation like a ton of other Classic Films. If you don’t want to watch it. You don’t have. Same goes for books, if you don’t want to read them then don’t. It’s fine. You don’t get to withhold them from everyone else just because you don’t like them. Sorry.
Nope, you don’t get to withhold movies or books or even basic Constitutional Rights from your Fellow Americans just because you’re ‘offended’ by them. Perhaps, just perhaps, if you should find that the ‘offense’ of such things to you is so grievous, that would be a good time for inward reflection and meditation on…you.
Just a thought and one that was Gone With The Wind that Blew Away Common Sense long ago.
I’m fairly certain we’ve been over this before but, just for kicks, as Indecision 2016 nears (Yeah, I know, we’ve still got just over a year to go! Oh it’s gonna be such fun! Not!) let’s go over a few basic words.
1: any of various economic and political theories advocating collective or governmental ownership and administration of the means of production and distribution of goods
2 a : a system of society or group living in which there is no private property
b : a system or condition of society in which the means of production are owned and controlled by the state
3: a stage of society in Marxist theory transitional between capitalism and communism and distinguished by unequal distribution of goods and pay according to work done
1a : a theory advocating elimination of private property
b : a system in which goods are owned in common and are available to all as needed
a : a doctrine based on revolutionary Marxian socialism and Marxism-Leninism that was the official ideology of the Union of Soviet Socialist Republics
b : a totalitarian system of government in which a single authoritarian party controls state-owned means of production
c : a final stage of society in Marxist theory in which the state has withered away and economic goods are distributed equitably
d : communist systems collectively
: an economic system characterized by private or corporate ownership of capital goods, by investments that are determined by private decision, and by prices, production, and the distribution of goods that are determined mainly by competition in a free market
1: one that favors or supports a republican form of government
a : a member of a political party advocating republicanism
b : a member of the Democratic-Republican party or of the Republican party of the United States
1a : an adherent of democracy
b : one who practices social equality
2 capitalized : a member of the Democratic party of the United States
DO NOT confused “social equality” with “socialist”
: an advocate of the doctrine of free will
2 a : a person who upholds the principles of individual liberty especially of thought and action
b capitalized : a member of a political party advocating libertarian principles
1: not dependent: as
a (1) : not subject to control by others : self-governing (2) : not affiliated with a larger controlling unit
b (1) : not requiring or relying on something else : not contingent (2) : not looking to others for one’s opinions or for guidance in conduct (3) : not bound by or committed to a political party
c (1) : not requiring or relying on others (as for care or livelihood) (2) : being enough to free one from the necessity of working for a living
d: showing a desire for freedom
e (1) : not determined by or capable of being deduced or derived from or expressed in terms of members (as axioms or equations) of the set under consideration; especially : having linear independence (2) : having the property that the joint probability (as of events or samples) or the joint probability density function (as of random variables) equals the product of the probabilities or probability density functions of separate occurrence
2 capitalized : of or relating to the Independents
1a : of, relating to, or based on the liberal arts
b archaic : of or befitting a man of free birth
2a : marked by generosity : openhanded
b : given or provided in a generous and openhanded way
c : ample, full
3 obsolete : lacking moral restraint : licentious
4: not literal or strict : loose
5: broad-minded; especially : not bound by authoritarianism, orthodoxy, or traditional forms
6 a : of, favoring, or based upon the principles of liberalism
b capitalized : of or constituting a political party advocating or associated with the principles of political liberalism; especially : of or constituting a political party in the United Kingdom associated with ideals of individual especially economic freedom, greater individual participation in government, and constitutional, political, and administrative reforms designed to secure these objectives
2a : of or relating to a philosophy of conservatism
b capitalized : of or constituting a political party professing the principles of conservatism: as (1) : of or constituting a party of the United Kingdom advocating support of established institutions (2) : progressive conservative
3a : tending or disposed to maintain existing views, conditions, or institutions : traditional
b : marked by moderation or caution
c : marked by or relating to traditional norms of taste, elegance, style, or manners
4: of, relating to, or practicing Conservative Judaism
1 a : government by the people; especially : rule of the majority
b : a government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised by them directly or indirectly through a system of representation usually involving periodically held free elections
2: a political unit that has a democratic government
capitalized : the principles and policies of the Democratic party in the United States
4: the common people especially when constituting the source of political authority
5: the absence of hereditary or arbitrary class distinctions or privileges
ALL of the above come straight from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. I did not make them up. I did not embellish them in any manner whatsoever.
The following words do not exist within the English Language and only serve to make the user look like an uninformed moron:
And about 100 others
If you can’t make your case/argument without resorting to Elementary School Yard Tactics, kindly do the General Population a favor and shut up. Vote however you want but refrain from subjecting the rest of us to your idiocy. Honestly, it’s the bottom line least you can do.
Yes, yes, yes, by now, you can probably tell that I was reading Yahoo! “News” today and playing a game of Follow the Links. I discovered we have more idiots than anything else. More people who are out there using words they have no real concept of and tossing them around just because they ‘buzz’.
Try to be an informed voter. Try to get it right. Try to express yourself in an intelligent manner and if you do, who knows, you may spark a spirited debate rather than instigating unrest and furthering the political/social/racial divides that are prevalent within the USofA. It could happen. It could be YOU but only if you have a grasp of the English language and History. For those of you who don’t remember the Cold War or anything before it…shut up. Seriously, just shut up. I don’t mean to restrict your Freedom of Speech, I’m just trying to keep you from looking like a total idiot.
As to this
If you want to fly it on your lawn, put it on your car/beer coosie/t-shirt/whatthehellever…go for it. I don’t care. But, in my very humble opinion, it should not be sanctioned by any government within the United States of America not federal, state, or local unless said governmental body is very willing to name the next military boat (whatever it is submarine/aircraft carrier/battle ship) to come off the line the USS Benedict Arnold. Got it?
That’s today’s Lesson in Politics. Thanks so much for coming by.