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New Review, Progress with Kinde

I got an AWESOME review for “The Heart of War” today! Woot!!!!!!

Bex ‘n’ Books gave it 4 Stars! Because I know most of you won’t click the link to share in my joy, here’s a little snippet from the review:

“What I really enjoyed about this book in addition to how well it was written, was the delve into Greek Mythology. I’ve always been fascinated, yet completely clueless. The Heart of War gives an intriguing and interesting take on how the Gods of myth and legend would respond to the 21st century, and provides us with a gritty, yet at times endearing look at the Gods and their relationships.

The smooth narrative flow and well-developed characters made The Heart of War an enjoyable read. A sexy 4 stars!”

Pretty cool, huh????🙂

Lastly, at least for now, I have been able to resolve two out of three problems with Kindle.
1-I am officially unenrolled from the ‘Select Program’ with all books
2-They were sorry about the price decrease yet reminded me of their ‘right’ to lower prices at their discretion. However, they think that was a little low.
3-That damn review. That asshole won’t get back to me.

The people handling problems #1 and #2 gave me DIRECT email addresses, I don’t jump through hoops with them just to communicate…that’s very nice! So are they. Those two representatives are awesome! The other, and his ‘colleague’ suck salty monkey balls. As a result, I have not yet ‘republished’ those books on Kindle.

I’m kinda interested to see if Kindle format sales go up on other sites due to them not being available directly on Kindle. Most people who love their e-reader are fully aware of places like Smashwords, All Romance E-Books, and 1 Place for Romance, so they shouldn’t have any REAL problems finding them if they want them. I suppose I could return all of the e-books except “Heart” to Kindle but maybe we’ll just run with this little unscientific experiment for a month or two. Ya know, just for laughs.

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It Didn’t Work Out

I went to the new job yesterday and I’m not going back. It’s a bummer. I stayed up most of the night thinking about it but realized that I just should not do it. Let me explain;

It’s not the job itself, I’m positive once I learned where everything IS and fell into a routine that I would do fine and all would run smoothly. After the typical ‘adjustment period’ that is. But, very unexpectedly I worked for 5 hours yesterday and it wasn’t until near the end of the day that I was told I wouldn’t be making any more in their office than I did in the last office. Only in this office I’d be the support staff for TWO practicing lawyers instead of one. So it’s double the work at the same pay rate and I haven’t had a raise in 7 years.

I almost said ‘no’ right then and there but I didn’t. When I came home and told hubby the pay rate he wigged! He told me not to take less than $14.75/hour and now that I knew my worth I shouldn’t go for anything less. He even said he’d rather see me going to school, writing, and collecting, until October than take the same type of job for the same lousy pay rate. I am very happy to have his support and the support of my family on this one. If it weren’t for that, I’d just go in today, start the job feeling degraded, and keep plugging right along through it letting it crush me just because there’s a meager pay check in it.

I’ll tell you, if I have to work a week and cash ONE more check for a lousy $263.05 I’ll lose my mind! I really will. I would rather ring register at Benny’s or serve coffee at Dunkin’ Donuts at this point. For years and years, I just never understood when people would say something like; “I make more on Unemployment” or “It’s not worth it to go back to work”. NOW I get it. If I took this job, I’d be making the grand $98.00 more a week than I do on Unemployment. Does that sound ‘worth it’ to you?

I know the economy’s tough and even lawyers are suffering but so am I. I can’t sit at a desk watching ‘the boss’ buy new car after new car, take trips to Spain, England, Ireland, Alaska, on a steady basis, while I wonder if my pay check will be enough just to put 75 gallons of oil in the tank. It’s degrading, dehumanizing even. I can’t tell you just how DEvalued I felt at the last job as a worker and as a person. This office doesn’t do the same kind of work, they’re not 90-98% State Pay clients at all…they actually SEND bills for $10,000.00! (Yeah, they don’t walk away from ’em, imagine that!)

I let Kathy get away with my lousy pay for years telling myself that the practice was nearly all State Pay so she couldn’t ‘afford’ to give me a raise and that I felt I was doing some good in the world but when it went unrecognized year after year after year…let’s just say it wore on me. I can’t see it being any different in this office. It would soon grind me down the same way but it wouldn’t take more than a month this time around.

Don’t get me wrong, these people are really nice and the ‘lady lawyer’ is actually qualifies as ‘cool’, which is a nice change, LOL. However, I can’t see them giving out good sized yearly raises, at the end of whatever ‘probationary period’ there might be, the most I can envision is going up to $12.50 an hour. After learning at Unemployment Orientation that I should be making in the neighborhood of $16.00 an hour…that’s just being a regular old secretary, not a legal secretary or a paralegal/legal assistant. That’s WITHOUT a degree or any paperwork at all. I have oodles of experience I shouldn’t have to settle for less than what someone working 40 hours a week at minimum wage brings home. That type of job has to be worth at least $14.75 an hour to a boss. Working part-time at that rate it’s LESS THAN $400.00/week before taxes. I just can’t cut my own throat anymore. It’s not fair to me or my family. I KNOW I won’t make that kind of pay in that office because on the first interview she told me people were looking for ‘outrageous pay’ and that she wouldn’t pay someone $16.00/hour unless they had all kind of fancy paperwork saying they could do the job.

I understand that businesses need to make money to stay in business. I just wish businesses would understand that their employees need to make a LIVING WAGE in order to, ya know, LIVE.

SO, I’ll keep looking. Unemployment re-upped me for another 26 weeks and I now have until October 27th to collect. I went to Ridley and Lowell’s website and filled out their little form to get an appointment to go back to school. I’ll go down to Unemployment today and see what the procedure is for getting the State to pay for job retraining. It worked for my hubby, it could work for me too. I could probably breeze through their paralegal/legal assistant course but, from what I’m seeing around here, it probably wouldn’t amount to much monetary difference. I’m thinking about Medical Billing and Coding, I did a bit of that at the chiropractor’s office. (BTW, when I left that job 10 years ago, I was making $12.50/hr to run the front desk and $20.00/hour to do the billing!) There’s NO secretarial work; no answering the main phone lines, no scheduling appointments, no typing massive documents, and no dealing with the public. AND they make buck. I know a few people who do it part-time and they STARTED at $500.00/week. That sounds good to me.

Besides, yesterday, I came to realize just how jaded I am where the public is concerned. I am SO used to dealing with nasty-tempered, ungrateful, KA-RAY-ZEE, morons, that I can’t see people any other way when they walk in the door anymore! How terrible is THAT? People came in, I greeted them, I smiled, I was nice and polite, and the whole time my brain was saying; what’s your problem you crazy bastard?

Yeah, I think ‘back office’ is probably the way for me to go for a while. At least until I can get my head in a better frame and stop seeing EVERYONE as a potential crazy pain in the ass.🙂

Anyway, since I so suck at confrontation, I took the coward’s way out and left a message on their machine this morning thanking them for the opportunity to work in their office but I didn’t think it would work out. This is a ‘nice’ message, isn’t it? (Hubby told me to type it out first!)

Hi Attorneys ___and ___, it’s Lisa. I wanted to call and thank you for the opportunity to work in your office but I think that I should respectfully decline the offer at this time. It’s not the work, I’m sure once I fell into a routine I would do fine but they pay isn’t commensurate. I worked for 7 years for the starting pay you’re offering and just can’t do it any longer. If I took the job, I would only be making $98.00 more a week than I currently do on Unemployment. I think, at this time, it is in my best interest to seek to further my education so that I can bring in a much higher wage for my family. Once again, I thank you very much for the opportunity to work in your lovely office and I wish you all the best.

I put the bit about Unemployment in because I want them to understand what they’re asking someone to work for is a pittance. Look at this way, IF an employer is willing to pay someone $12.00/hour for FULL-TIME work (a grand $480.00/week BEFORE taxes) they should have no problem paying someone $14.75/hour for PART-TIME work, they’re still saving money and the job is still getting done. They were willing to pay me $12.00/hour full-time and I was warned that I might be ‘sitting around painting my nails a good part of the time’. So what’s the deal? If the job can be done in 25 hours a week or less, why make someone sit there for 40 hours bored off their butt half the time? While we’re at it, why not give them the pay rate they deserve?

Doesn’t make any sense to me.

I guess I’ll keep looking.

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Kids, Parents, Obsession, Playin’ Catch-Up

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This morning I managed to make up a resume…sorta, I guess. Whatever. I didn’t know there were so many templates for so many different types of jobs until I wanted to make a simple resume. OY.

I looked around on for a job, I found one and sent them my resume. At first I thought it was a medical place by the email address but it’s actually the Old Lyme Country Club looking for daytime office help. That’d be good. No Crazies! Woot! Rich n Eccentric I don’t mind. Poor n Nukin’ Futz? Eh, I’ve had my fill of that, thankyouverymuch.

Their website kinda sucks–scratch that, it really sucks!– so I might be able to help with that too. If I get in there, they have lots of events, I could get hubby a few DJ gigs. Be nice to be out of the legal and medical fields anyway.

Well it was a busy weekend. We spent it emptying out Mrs. Jones’s room (hahaha) and taking the stuff to the new apartment. The room is completely empty now and just waiting for a good use to come along and claim it. Hubby will probably turn it into his game room. I realized something; moving is a young person’s game. Yep, I hate it! Oy! There wasn’t much big stuff just the bed, dresser, desk (which promptly fell apart upon being picked up but was rescued and glued), small table, and TV. I was pooped after that. Hubby decided to give them the living room couch with the plan being that we would get a new one in the near future….but….they took it away and brought it back. Couldn’t get it in the apartment! LOL That happened to us once we too, we bought a brand new couch, had it Scotch-Guarded, waited patiently for delivery and when it arrived the furniture guys couldn’t get it through the front door. Total bummer.

They have ‘no food’ so I gave them a very small care package. Yep, ‘no food’ so what did they turn around and do? Adopted a cat. hahahahaha It’s nice to see some minor fuck-ups really are universal. Can’t feed themselves but they’re gonna take care of the cat, which, by the way….’hey, mom? Do you still have Harry’s old liter box? How about some liter? Do you still have the cat carrier?’🙂

Oh well. Ahhhhhh to be young and living on love once more. I kinda miss those days. The Salad Days or the Character Building Years as I like to call them.

In any event, while the wedding had me in a tizzy I’m doing much better now. Yep, it surely is nice to have one out of the house. Working on the other one now. Well she’s sorta outta the house, she’s here doing laundry today. The weather’s been just gorgeous, doesn’t feel like February at all, even the crocuses have popped up already. It put me in a good writing mood and once the moving and recovering was done we sat down and wrote a good long while.

Over the weekend I heard about this father who shot his daughter’s laptop cuz he didn’t like what she posted on FaceBook about him. I heard about it but wasn’t interested enough to view his YouTube Video of the event until today when GMA mentioned it and hubby started talking about it. If you haven’t seen it yet, here ya go….

1-anyone’s 15 year-old daughter is supposed to think their parents are hard-nosed assholes. That’s the way it goes. They’re not supposed to like you or praise you, they won’t even consider doing that again until they’re in their 20s. They’re not supposed to be your buddy and you are not supposed to be theirs. They are supposed to hate your guts this indicates you are doing your job correctly.

2-She vented, as most teenagers do. She found what she thought was a safe place to exercise her Freedom of Speech, or in this case Freedom to Vent and jerkwad Dad just had to hone in on it.

3-He didn’t like what he found…he wasn’t supposed to–like it or read it. Then he wasn’t, well, mature enough to handle the situation with any level approaching ‘capable’. If he kept HIS OWN NOSE CLEAN he would never have had a problem.

I would bet my last dollar that Redneck Dad is NOT so calm, cool, and collected, when dealing with his teenager daughter face-to-face. What do you think?

The main lesson I would have taken away from this if I were the 15 year-old girl in question is that there is no safe place from Daddy’s prying eyes, acting like a childish fool is A-okay at any age AND if you do it long enough you get really cool (if dangerous) toys with which to exercise your right to be an asshole.

Yep, that’s it, that’s what I got out of it. Nice work Redneck Dad. While you gave us parents a few minutes of laughs letting us live vicariously through your stupidity I think most of us are glad we refrained from sinking to that particular level with our children. Let’s face it, it’s hard…really hard…to teach your kids to act like adults when you have not yet grown up to the point of actually learning gun safety. Discharging a firearm within city limits for absolutely no good reason whatsoever is illegal here….the folks where he lives obviously think it’s ok.

In case you can’t tell, I don’t pay any attention to what my kids post on FaceBook. Know why? Because in 5 minutes it’s gonna change again. At that point everything may be ‘fine’ or they may be on to another ‘hot topic’ either way…it’s fleeting and doesn’t much matter.

That’s a good lesson for Redneck Dad to learn, don’t you think? Someone should take away the gun and replace it with a fat joint. Tell him to suck it up, realize he’s not perfect, neither is his kid, and life’s too short to shoot at things that aren’t attacking you. The least he could have done was donate the damn laptop to someone who really could have used it.

He’s got a minimum of 3 more years of ‘parental bliss’ to go through yet. Can’t wait to see his video the first time she gets arrested or stays out past curfew or brings home bikers or throws a house party when they’re out of town or well….you know all of those REALLY ANNOYING things teenage girls do.

Just my opinion. We all know it doesn’t count for much.

That’s ok, I don’t understand why Whitney Houston got so much press either. She drowned in her bath tub. People do it every day it really isn’t anything new. She hadn’t had a hit in 20 years and her voice was s-h-o-t the last time I heard her sing I cringed. I don’t agree with the NJ Governor lowering flags to half-mast on her behalf. That should be reserved for cops, servicemen and BRUUUUUCE!

Oh well, I’m off to see if we can tie up “Obsession” today, at least make it to the Finish Line and then go back over stuff. ‘Eddie’s’ getting dark again now that he’s got ‘Helen’ but I think I can keep him on his chain this time around or at least avoid being blind-sided by the outrageous things he does. Yeah, I’ll settle for that at this point.